Studies show journaling is good for your mental health. Studies show that regularly writing at least three things you are grateful for is also good for your mental health. Studies further show sharing your appreciation to your partner in their love languages is good for your relationship. But what happens if your heart for your…
All couples argue. Some arguments can get loud. Some arguments can be deadly silent. However, the result is the same: a broken emotional connection. In relationships, the repair is less about solving a problem and more about emotionally reconnecting with your spouse to provide a safe environment for both of you. Gottman explained a repair…
“If you don’t know where you are going, you might wind up someplace else” – Yogi Berra “Where there is no vision, the people perish” – Proverbs 29:18a (KJV) Whether you believe in a new year’s resolution, there are some good reasons to set regular relationship goals for your marriage. Work, children, and other commitments…
Recently, I was trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), created by Dr. Sue Johnson. 75% of couples report increased marital satisfaction with their relationship when doing EFT. Dr. Johnson, in her book, Hold Me Tight, noted that the key to lasting love for couples is a special kind of emotional responsiveness called A.R.E. A: Accessible…
Good questions can be a gateway to the soul. Psychologist Arthur Aaron of Stony Brook University created 36 questions that could help people fall in love (especially followed by 4 minutes of sustained eye contact). Pick a few questions at a time and connect with your loved one. The questions are, Set 1 1. Given…
At times, stress could ignite transformation, but people grow best in a stable and safe environment. That is why, as parents, we try to create a safe environment for our kids. Stress is what many are feeling during the COVID time. And long-term exposure to stress could cause many problems for you and your relationship.…
Here we go again! It appears the world is closing once again in response to COVID-19. This reminded me of a line from Godfather III when Michael Corleone protested, “Just when I thought I was out, they pull me back in.” We thought things were getting back to normal: dining out, meeting people, going to…
What is your love style? Are you an avoider? A pleaser? A facilitator? A controller? Or a victim? Take the free online quiz and discover your love style. After the quiz, discover the core patterns of people with different love styles. And learn how to be a secure connector in your relationship.
A regular relationship checkup is essential for a healthy relationship with your spouse. In life, we go to see a dentist regularly twice a year to keep our teeth healthy. We get an annual medical checkup to stay on top of our physical health. But when was the last time you had a relationship checkup…